Motto:
We are a continuum. Just as we reach back to our ancestors for our fundamental values, so we, as guardians of that legacy, must reach ahead to our children and their children. And we do so with a sense of sacredness in that reaching.
Paul Tsongas
As it has been a while since I have shared
with you any thoughts on this topic, it may prove useful to remind you why
today’s post bears the number ‘10’. It is not only the number of perfection from
my childhood memories (best school grade, best gymnastics note), but it is also
the 10th writing from the ‘Ways’ series. It is the last from a
collection of personal views about potential ways out of the contemporary mess
which the humankind has created for itself over the last decades. The thoughts sharing
started actually with the ‘Roots’ series, consistent with my professional habit
of diagnosing the causes and status-quo of any mess before recommending alternative
ways out of it…
So … here I find myself today, striving to bring
a nice final touch to a collection of uninvited advice to humanity, to be either
appreciated or disregarded (time will tell!...). And the ‘inheritance’ topic carved
its way, first into my head and then gradually into my heart this week, just
like all the other topics did over the past four years.
Why would the inheritance aspect be so
important for our future? I would love to take you beyond the beautiful message
lying in the motto, as today’s choice of topic is somehow larger that the noble
‘legacy’ idea.
And, as you are reading this on my good
friend Peter’s EGO-OUT blog, I will start today’s inheritance story, by
describing to you the exact opposite, respectively what EGO-OUT means: the
quantity of information, knowledge and wisdom lost by the death of an
individual.
It encompasses basically that spiritual part, which people either omit to (or
purely cannot) pass on to other people before their death.
Inheritance has many components. The most
tangible and obvious to the naked eye, and also the most exposed to fierce
fights amongst surviving relatives are … the material things - such as real
estate, jewelry, cars, books, trousseaux, kitchen ware and so on. The most resilient
and (still!) difficult to manipulate are the genetic ones – such as physical appearance,
intelligence, skills, health risks and similar. The most sensitive to the
environment are the spiritual ones – such as education and moral standards, traditions
and beliefs, scientific and cultural wealth etc.. Last but not least, another interesting
category, both sensitive to the environment and volatile from a public perception
point of view, is the social component of the inheritance – reputation,
credibility, fame… This last component is usually formed within a specific
niche of activity, within a specific social circle and it has very much to do
with family bonds. This part of the inheritance can be wasted easily with hasty
or reckless behavior…
Except the genetic component, inheritance
is not necessarily connected to a certain blood line or official family bonds. There
are relationships in our lives that bring us close to other people that may bestow
on us material, spiritual or social welfare, some following certain interest, and
some out of pure generosity or kindness of their hearts. On the spiritual side
especially, some do it intentionally, others just by being themselves. Some inheritance
we accept, some we reject, consciously or not… Inheritance is also not
necessarily good – we may inherit expensive properties which we cannot afford
to keep and cannot manage to sell … we can get stuck with weak genetics or pick
up silly behavior and lousy habits …
There is also the other side of the story, the
‘taking back’ story. It cannot be applied to all the inheritance components, as
some are not within the control of ‘the giver’ after being given… Materially or
socially disinheriting the unfit or disobedient heir may bring some immediate
effects in line with the deciding party’s interests, but genetic and spiritual inheritance
is certainly not reversible. I would dare to speculate that when the genetic
and spiritual inheritance is strong and of good nature, the material effects of
the disinheritance may be reversed in no time, while the motivational effects
of challenged pride make the ambitious heir more prone to succeed in the long
run.
Why should inheritance be considered as one
of the most important ways ahead?
The globalization has transformed most developing
or under-developed countries into consumer markets, pushing the families beyond
their real purchasing power, by encouraging excessive debt and waste, and by gradually
turning this into a socially gratified behavior. Sometimes such vicious circle ends
up with a negative inheritance situation, when the assumed debt stretches over
to the next generation... by accepting the material inheritance, one must take
on responsibility for the related debt also.
Therefore, it has become essential to understand
the importance of sustainable wealth accumulation in such economies. The prosperity
of a nation is largely dependent on the strength of its middle class. Such middle
class grows stronger by accumulating material wealth across several generations,
gradually passing it on as inheritance to the next line of legitimate heirs. A
healthy mix of family expenditure with long-term savings is one of the most important
engines for progress on a macro economical level. To increase awareness about
the importance of building material inheritance for the children is an
important way of influencing the savings and investment behavior of families.
Moving on to the next components of the
inheritance, the spiritual and social parts of one’s inheritance are highly
sensitive to both the material side (as education, culture and exposure to
global environment are rather expensive treats), as well as social environment
(starting with family, school, works, other social circles).
Without a constant
focus on what we expose ourselves and our children to, we will gradually lose
control over what we shall leave as inheritance to those who follow… And our world is being tested nowadays, on an
unprecedented level, at least for this century. We are witnessing a material,
cultural and social clash of civilizations, with one major stake: our
INHERITANCE!
And, same as with all important things in
life, it is hard to define the right balance. Pride is the most resilient genetic
inheritance of all mankind and it rules a lot on the other inheritance matters. We have a
fundamental need to be proud of our children and the legacy we leave behind. We
cannot postpone the focus on individual, family and social inheritance, we must wisely listen to and harmonize an entire chorus of mostly contradicting
voices (pride and prejudice, material interests and needs, survival and tolerance
boundaries, generosity and humanitarian spirit), while not forgetting to
re-visit the lessons of history!
If we believe to be our ancestors’ most
honorable and ambitious dreams turned into reality, we have a duty to prevent
our children to turn into our worst nightmares!
Georgina Popescu
I have always read you with great pleasure.
ReplyDeleteIt was me, the friend, as well as the reader, who have been watching your texts about both your perception of world and your solutions, all of them reflecting your evolution as human being; I must confess that- knowing you - I have enjoyed over these years the writing style, your individual transformation and yours ideas, in that order.
Some years ago I met a wonderful, joyful, bright, warm young lady and now, you have became such a vocal, articulate, wise, self-conscious of the matters of our time lady!! Please don't waste your many talents and keep writing/advising/counseling!
I wish you good luck and the new wright beginning you deserve!
Dear Liana,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your constant support and contribution!
Good fiends like you made me become a lot more confident than when we first met, a bit wiser with each year that passes by, while still eager to grow each new day a little wiser than the day before, a little less knowledgeable than the day after ... and so on...
Big hug! ☺