Motto: Consider what you think justice requires, and decide accordingly. But never give your reasons; for your judgment will probably be right, but your reasons will certainly be wrong. Lord Mansfield
Wikipedia defines suspicion as a feeling of distrust or perceived guilt for someone or something. Supposition is somewhat larger in sense, meaning something you suppose (good or bad), looks synonim to hypothesis. My perception of these two notions is a little wider and not so clear on the negative sense of suspicion. I do not feel it relates only to misstrust or some form of guilt. Did you ever hear somebody saying ‘I suspect he / she is in love with me’? Or ‘by the way she behaves, I suspect she is pregnant’.
If I was to use my own words for defining the idea of suspicion at the border of supposition, I would say that it is something (or someone) about which (or whom) we wonder, or we think that we believe, but recognize that we actually do not KNOW. It is something (or someone) in connection to which (or whom) we actually mistrust ourselves and our own judgment. Unfortunately it is also something that we are too often inclined to share informally with others, because spreading our suspicion seems to add power to it (if it turns out to be true, we gain some kind of recognition for our ‘predictive power’). It is a dangerous but rather frequent behavior, as it is the very root of gossip (which is very frequently a form of spreading suspicions and rarely a form of unveiling some hidden truth). To complete my definition, suspicion is something that we would not be willing to testify under oath, unless we distortedly believe that it is a fact.
Suspicion and supposition are frequently deceitful. It means that sometimes people believe in good faith that whatever conclusion they are drawing is actually fact. Under the frame of regular relationships, if I would have to place my daily suppositions about the others on the Johari window, they would most probably get dispersed between unknown and the façade. While my suppositions about myself would lie somewhere between unknown and the blind spot (yes, I have quite a number of self-suspicions, I believe but do not KNOW a lot of things about myself).
The arena may be large in some personal relationship, but it is rather small in the professional and social relationship. So, if I follow a logical approach, I would conclude that most of our lives, in most of our relationships, we act and react mostly based on suppositions. We suppose about the others that they are as we see them. We suppose their thoughts and reactionS are triggered by what we believe is their motivation. We suppose things happen always for a reason. We suppose we could understand both results and reasons, just by interpreting the facts through our own eyes, our own set of values, our own life experience and our own expectations. We suppose we hear the messages even when we are not really listening. We suppose we see things even where we are not really looking.
Almost every decision we make is based on some hypothesis. Part of them is facts, but most of them are perception and subjective interpretation of the premises – our own suspicions about other people, things, situations, and implications. Only seldom we have the luxury to base our decision entirely on facts, and this is why we should stop supposing that there are good and bad decisions. It seems to me more and more that decisions… just are. They are lying behind us, or staring right in front of us, or waiting before us. They always outline our future and can turn from good to bad or vice-versa, depending on the time-frame and on our perception of the outcome – there is a saying: ‘Good decisions come from experience, and experience comes from bad decisions’.
As soon as we will learn how to assume and live with our own decisions, we will also learn to trust our judgment and/or intuition in the process of taking them.
I suspect you will have now a nice day!